Him coming back doesn’t mean he chose you — it usually means access is easy again.

Sometimes he comes back because he realized the grass wasn’t greener.

Coming back is not the same as committing.

If he wanted to choose you, he wouldn’t have left in the first place.

Someone who always comes back is someone who will always leave.

Pay attention to patterns, not words.

Ask yourself if anything actually changed, or if he’s just lonely, bored, or nostalgic.

Missing you is not the same as being ready for you.

If you take him back without change, you show him his behavior was acceptable.

You teach him that he doesn’t have to respect your boundaries or change.

Every time you let him back in, you show him you’ll always be available.

Being unavailable earns more respect than always being accessible.

If he really wants you, effort and clarity won’t be optional.

You don’t have to make it easy — or give access at all.

What didn’t choose you the first time won’t suddenly choose you now.

You want someone who doesn’t need a million chances to see your value.

Breadcrumbs feel good in the moment, but they don’t build anything real.

Temporary attention is not effort.