This is the hardest phase, and nothing you're feeling right now is a sign you should reach out. Your nervous system is panicking — not your heart. Everything feels urgent, but nothing actually is. Your body is reacting to the loss of routine, not love. You're going to feel tempted to "just check in" or "just say hi." Don't. This urge is about discomfort, not connection. You don't need to fix this feeling — you need to let it pass. Doing nothing is doing the work right now. Stay right here. Don't move.

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The intensity starts to come in waves instead of all at once. This is where most people break — not because they should, but because they're uncomfortable. You might start thinking, "Enough time has passed." It hasn't — your nervous system is still adjusting. Reaching out now would reset everything you've already survived. You don't need relief; you need consistency. Let the wave rise and fall without acting on it. Each wave you don't respond to makes the next one weaker. Don't trade progress for temporary comfort.

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This is when your brain starts romanticizing the past. You'll remember the good moments more clearly than the bad ones. This is normal — and misleading. Your mind wants familiarity, not truth. You might feel curious instead of desperate, and that can feel convincing. Curiosity is still a trap if it leads you backwards. You didn't come this far just to reopen the wound. Keep going — you're doing better than you think. Distance is giving you clarity, even if you don't feel it yet.

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Your nervous system is finally calming down. You're thinking more clearly and reacting less emotionally. You might start wondering if you could "handle" talking to him now. Don't test your healing just to prove you're strong. Peace is fragile at first — protect it. Not reaching out is no longer about willpower; it's about self-respect. You're not waiting for him anymore — you're choosing yourself. Don't trade your calm for curiosity. You're building something new. Don't interrupt it.

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